In fact, if she’s junior to you, then there are power dynamics in play, and that adds an additional type of creepy into the mix.
The best thing you can do now is show that you truly realize that this wasn’t okay and why …
Cow implies bringing out an abject state of timorousness and often demoralization: a dog that was cowed by abuse.
To bully is to intimidate through blustering, domineering, or threatening behavior: workers who were bullied into accepting a poor contract.
So, look: You made a remark that assessed a coworker’s level of attractiveness (which is creepy), insulted her intelligence (which is belittling), and implied that her looks are among her best qualifications (creepy belittling). It’s also not really relevant that she’s not above you in the hierarchy.
If you want to know how to be mean and intimidating when you need to be, see Step 1 to be on your way.
because if you don’t, your employer is going to have reasonable concerns that you might relate inappropriately to other people in your workplace in the future.
"Be yourself" is quite possibly the most commonly used phrase in the history of individualist-based advice. It helps me see where I'm actually the same as others in a good way, and my differences are also good.
Though sometimes we mistakenly think that everyone who dresses or acts a certain way is going to look down on us.
I was written up at work yesterday due to a single comment that I made.